Many Egg Donors would like to remain anonymous for a variety of reasons. For example, many egg donors are young who still have plans to build a family of their own in the future. Some have reservations about meeting any future children of the Intended Parents that they helped because they fear they’ll feel overwhelmed by recognizing their DNA in a child they don’t know.
Whatever the reason, an Egg Donor’s wish to be anonymous is theirs and should be honored. Contractually everything will be set in place for an anonymous egg donor. The same goes for a donor that wants to remain open for a future meet and greet with any potential offspring her eggs might give.
Many arrangements state that children can reach out the donor once they reach the age of 18. Yet, each and every donor is going to have a different set of desires for future contact or remaining anonymous throughout the egg donation process.
However, in 2018 there are a few things sweeping that nation that may make it a little more tricky to remain anonymous. Here’s what you should consider:
Do I Want Any Future Contact?
You might be the kind of Egg Donor that wants to donate your eggs once and then move on with your life, never knowing the outcome of your donation. That is a very normal desire and something that will be honored by your Intended Parents for the remainder of your life.
If you think there might come a day that you do want to meet any potential children that were born from your egg donation process, then make a decision further down the road. Most agencies and lawyers will have your information up to date for years to come, and they can reach out to you later on behalf of any Intended Parents to see if you’ve reached a decision or changed your mind.
Do You Want Your Own Children?
Many Egg Donors choose to remain open in the egg donation process if they don’t plan on having any children of their own. They feel great about helping others build a family, and are interested in meeting the kids once they’ve grown.
If you want your own children, consider your future family as well when making this decision. Would meeting any other children from your eggs that live with another family be something you find difficult to explain to your kids or husband?
There are so many different ways your story can go when it comes to the egg donation process. But it’s important to remember that it’s up to you to tailor the process. You can do what makes you feel the most comfortable, and the Intended Parents you are helping will remain grateful. The truth is, if a set of Intended Parents insist on a donor that is open and you’d like to remain anonymous, then they can find a donor that’s open- it just won’t be you.
23andME and the Egg Donation Process
Things like 23andMe and other ancestry reports are making it more and more difficult for Egg Donors to remain anonymous. Have no fear, lawyers and contracts in place are here! Once you’ve set your contracts, Intended Parents cannot contact you even if they discover your identity through DNA testing.
They may be introduced to you through a photo or a profile online if you’ve performed the DNA test as well and sent it in. However, that doesn’t mean they can contact you. If you’d really like to cover your bases, perhaps you should consider steering clear from things like 23andMe and other DNA tests.
If you are interested in your ancestry and your genetic makeup or ethnic origin, then do the tests and enjoy the results. Know that it’s possible you could be linked to any potential offspring, but have peace of mind knowing that your Intended Parents will be respectful to your initial wishes from the egg donation process. They can reach out to you through lawyers and agency reps to see how you feel in the future.
Any Way You Want It
However you’d like to go through the egg donation process, we can help you make it a reality. By using the best programs you’ll be able to tailor things in a way that make you comfortable. You can remain anonymous, or you can be an open donor willing to meet the Intended Parents and any future children.
Your act is a generous one, so whatever you decide you’ll still be helping other families. When you’re ready to donate your eggs to parents with a dream to have children, contact us today!