We Create Families Every Day as Our Amazing Surrogates Pay It Forward – A Day in the Life at Conceptual Options

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We Create Families Every Day as Our Amazing Surrogates Pay It Forward – A Day in the Life at Conceptual Options

At Conceptual Options we have been creating families for almost 20 years, yet each day brings us something new and exciting. One example is our amazing Surrogate, Amber, who wanted others to see what Surrogacy has done for her family and the family of her Intended Parents.

In her own words, Amber stated the following about her Surrogacy Journey,

IF you ever get the opportunity to change the life of someone else, do it without hesitation. Don’t live a life full of unfulfilling shit or doing things someone else told you to do. If you want to quit your job and move, do that. If you want to fall in love, do that. If you so damn well please to take a trip around the world or go on a breastfeeding campaign, DO THAT SHIT TOO! I think I actually named the things I want to do next but you get the point. I encourage you to do whatever makes you appreciate life a little bit more.

Surrogacy made me appreciate the shiny things a little less, now I’m hungry as hell for the things that I deserve. If you have followed my journey since the first round of medication you must know how dedicated I was to this. I hate needles! I hate doctors! From the first embryo transfer on January 30, 2015, to the miscarriage… To baby girl Panda’s birth on January 30, 2016, its has been one amazing ride. I was dedicated to seeing this dream of life come true… Did I ever mention this was for complete strangers?? Well they are not strangers now but damn… I didn’t even meet them until I was well into taking them shots. I signed up… they picked me…. Short story but that’s not the end of our story.

Over the course of this time we’ve became a family. Like seriously… I added them to my family and us to theirs. I mean they never met my family but I’m 100% certain that they are very much an amazing contribution to the family I came from, the FAMILIES I am apart of, and the one I will create. The connection is and will always be me. That part of the story by itself is big. This happened because of me! Holy shit, I’m batman!!!!! Honestly, if I had to write a kick ass ‘My Life’ story….. (wait no…. I’d get my amazing friend Nik or my fabulous cousin Darby to write my story because they are kick ass writers and me writing my own story would probably be garbage. They are obvisouly my personal holy grails to word play… and they are both writing books so be on the look out) EVEN IF THEY WROTE IT….. You get the picture!

I say all of that to say this felt amazing….. Can I just say that again…. THIS SHIT FELT AMAZING!!! and because every person that i ran across thought it was so beautiful, AMAZING needs an upgrade. She will return to China Wednesday. I thanked her for coming. VENI, VEDI, VICI ……Stay tuned….

XOXO.glam

A little letter for my little panda:

My little full moon baby,

On the morning I drove to the hospital the moon was very low. Along the long stretch of rode on La Ceinega Blvd thats all I really remember about the drive other than I caught zero red lights on a street lined with them. I will one day thank you again for coming into the world to show me the beautiful reflection of His grace. Thank you for choosing me. I wish you a lifetime of happiness and Im grateful I’ll be around to witness it. Thank you for sprinkling the glitter that you did, at the exact time you did it. My soul is forever grateful.

Love.

Who is not crying after that? Amber, like all of our amazing Surrogates at Conceptual Options over all of these years, has made her life a journey well spent and a journey towards finding out what is important in life–and she certainly paid it forward. Karma is good, Amber!

To follow Amber and her journey, find her story at Passion for the Possible here. Amber and all of our amazing Surrogates are true Super Heros!

To learn more about Becoming a Surrogate and paying it forward with Conceptual Options, contact us today!

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Vegas, Baby – A New Film On Infertility & IVF You MUST See!!!

A new film, Vegas Baby, by Director, Amanda Micheli, is a must see for anyone struggling with infertility, as well as those men and women who help them as surrogates, egg donors, sperm donors, IVF doctors, friends, and family. Produced by Morgan Spurlock, the film examines the world of in vitro fertilization and the marketing tools used IVF pioneer, Geoffrey Sher, and his Las Vegas clinic.

More specifically, each year the clinic holds a lottery where childless couples send in videos that make the pitch for a free treatment valued at approximately $20,000.00.

“Vegas Baby” follows the stories of a diverse group of contestants. They include Ann and Brian Johnson, of Green Bay, Wis., an interracial couple (Micheli, perhaps wisely, does not comment on this) who have lost prematurely born twins. They have also been unsuccessful in adopting, and see this as their last chance to have a family.

Rosalinda and Dago Patlan, a Hispanic couple from San Antonio, have tried repeatedly without success to have a baby, despite the toll it has taken on their finances and relationship. Rosalinda, who at a young age lost her father and two brothers, insists that she be the biological mother. She refuses to adopt, an attitude that weighs on Dago, who was himself adopted as a child.

Athena Reich, from New York City, is a performer who works as a Lady Gaga impersonator. She finds it more difficult to admit to herself that she is infertile than it was for her to come out to others that she is gay.

There is only one winner, but the two runners-up also persevere in their wish to have the treatment, which Sher offers at a discount. Nonetheless the cost — not just financial, but emotional and in terms of relationships — is considerable.

This film is raw, full of emotions, certainly a film we should all see – especially since 1 in 6 are infertile.

As stated by the Director Amanda Micheli,

While I can’t control my fertility, I can use my skills as a filmmaker to try to give voice to the 1 in 6 — straight, gay, coupled, or going it alone — who struggle with infertility in isolation. By humanizing their stories, my goal is to break the silence around this medical and social issue and ignite a conversation about the flipside of reproductive choice: the choice to have a child.

Find out where to see the film here, as well as on iTunes and Netflix to name a few.


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Surrogacy Story

Parents Speak Out About Surrogacy Case Headed to Iowa Supreme Court – “We Should Have Used a Surrogacy Agency”

“Just let other intended parents know to be very careful, my suggestion would be to use an agency – it’s very hard now to trust people. We have a trust issue now because of this,” said Chantele.

Knowing what they know now, Paul and Chantele feel that their trust has been violated by a woman they had hired to be their surrogate.

Their story starts as the couple wanted to have a child of their own after rekindling a relationship that has started in high school.

“We had decided unfortunately not to use an agency at that time,” said Chantele, “Our clinic had gave us several websites that we could utilize for people advertising to be surrogates and that’s what we did, and she ended up contacting us,” said Chantele, referring to the surrogate.

The Montover’s and the surrogate entered a written Gestational Carrier Agreement, or Surrogacy Agreement. Paul and Chantele agreed to pay the surrogate $13,000 to carry their baby – money for the surrogate to have her own round of IVF down the road.

“We agreed because we thought well that would be nice to help somebody else out as well,” said Chantele.

The surrogate became pregnant around Easter Sunday, 2016.

Beginning around May, 2016 the Montover’s relationship with their surrogate broke down.

“She said she didn’t trust us anymore, she changed her phone number, we couldn’t get a hold of her on social media,” said Paul about the surrogate.

Eventually, the Montover’s became so concerned they say they contacted the police for help and even considered legal options. At the end of October, they found out the surrogate had given birth at the end of August to twins, born premature at 24-weeks, weighing less than 2 pounds.

“She went through surgeries, blood transfusions,” explained Chantele looking at the baby, whose twin passed away eight days after birth, all unknown to Paul and Chantele.

A judge granted Paul and Chantele temporary custody in December and then in February, a Linn County District Court Judge gave the final judgement in favor of the Montover’s. Unfortunately, their surrogate is now appealing the ruling to the Iowa Supreme Court, maintaining the legal argument she is the legal mother because she gave birth and that the surrogacy agreement is unenforceable.

Such a sad story. Read more about their Surrogacy here.