How Becoming a Surrogate was the Best Thing She Has Ever Done — Besides Being a Mother to Her Own Children

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How Becoming a Surrogate was the Best Thing She Has Ever Done — Besides Being a Mother to Her Own Children

Positive surrogacy articles are always wonderful for us to find – and we certainly found one at the Huffington Post, “Becoming A Surrogate Was Better Than I Ever Imagined”. The post is an amazing story of one woman’s quest to become a surrogate and to live “a life less ordinary.”

We learn about Sara Taylor Jones, and why she decided to become a surrogate — because she could never imagine herself never being called a mother. She also learned,unfortunately, about what others thought of surrogacy.

Those around me were horrified – what was I thinking? How could I give my baby away? What if I wanted to keep the baby? Who were these awful people who would pay to have a baby? How could I sell my own baby? That’s when I realised that actually the hardest part of being a surrogate was educating people whose experience of surrogacy was limited to a tabloid headline, or a TV soap storyline. Although the knowledge of surrogacy has increased over the last 15 years, there are still so many misconceptions about how it works, and what type of person turns to surrogacy, either as surrogate or as an intended parent.

At Conceptual Options we encourage our surrogates to think about what they are going to tell people, if anything at all, but more importantly, how to tell those around her – her family, her friends, her co-workers, and her children.

Read more about Sara’s story here at the Huffington Post.

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We Create Families Every Day as Our Amazing Surrogates Pay It Forward – A Day in the Life at Conceptual Options

At Conceptual Options we have been creating families for almost 20 years, yet each day brings us something new and exciting. One example is our amazing Surrogate, Amber, who wanted others to see what Surrogacy has done for her family and the family of her Intended Parents.

In her own words, Amber stated the following about her Surrogacy Journey,

IF you ever get the opportunity to change the life of someone else, do it without hesitation. Don’t live a life full of unfulfilling shit or doing things someone else told you to do. If you want to quit your job and move, do that. If you want to fall in love, do that. If you so damn well please to take a trip around the world or go on a breastfeeding campaign, DO THAT SHIT TOO! I think I actually named the things I want to do next but you get the point. I encourage you to do whatever makes you appreciate life a little bit more.

Surrogacy made me appreciate the shiny things a little less, now I’m hungry as hell for the things that I deserve. If you have followed my journey since the first round of medication you must know how dedicated I was to this. I hate needles! I hate doctors! From the first embryo transfer on January 30, 2015, to the miscarriage… To baby girl Panda’s birth on January 30, 2016, its has been one amazing ride. I was dedicated to seeing this dream of life come true… Did I ever mention this was for complete strangers?? Well they are not strangers now but damn… I didn’t even meet them until I was well into taking them shots. I signed up… they picked me…. Short story but that’s not the end of our story.

Over the course of this time we’ve became a family. Like seriously… I added them to my family and us to theirs. I mean they never met my family but I’m 100% certain that they are very much an amazing contribution to the family I came from, the FAMILIES I am apart of, and the one I will create. The connection is and will always be me. That part of the story by itself is big. This happened because of me! Holy shit, I’m batman!!!!! Honestly, if I had to write a kick ass ‘My Life’ story….. (wait no…. I’d get my amazing friend Nik or my fabulous cousin Darby to write my story because they are kick ass writers and me writing my own story would probably be garbage. They are obvisouly my personal holy grails to word play… and they are both writing books so be on the look out) EVEN IF THEY WROTE IT….. You get the picture!

I say all of that to say this felt amazing….. Can I just say that again…. THIS SHIT FELT AMAZING!!! and because every person that i ran across thought it was so beautiful, AMAZING needs an upgrade. She will return to China Wednesday. I thanked her for coming. VENI, VEDI, VICI ……Stay tuned….

XOXO.glam

A little letter for my little panda:

My little full moon baby,

On the morning I drove to the hospital the moon was very low. Along the long stretch of rode on La Ceinega Blvd thats all I really remember about the drive other than I caught zero red lights on a street lined with them. I will one day thank you again for coming into the world to show me the beautiful reflection of His grace. Thank you for choosing me. I wish you a lifetime of happiness and Im grateful I’ll be around to witness it. Thank you for sprinkling the glitter that you did, at the exact time you did it. My soul is forever grateful.

Love.

Who is not crying after that? Amber, like all of our amazing Surrogates at Conceptual Options over all of these years, has made her life a journey well spent and a journey towards finding out what is important in life–and she certainly paid it forward. Karma is good, Amber!

To follow Amber and her journey, find her story at Passion for the Possible here. Amber and all of our amazing Surrogates are true Super Heros!

To learn more about Becoming a Surrogate and paying it forward with Conceptual Options, contact us today!

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Surrogacy Story

Parents Speak Out About Surrogacy Case Headed to Iowa Supreme Court – “We Should Have Used a Surrogacy Agency”

“Just let other intended parents know to be very careful, my suggestion would be to use an agency – it’s very hard now to trust people. We have a trust issue now because of this,” said Chantele.

Knowing what they know now, Paul and Chantele feel that their trust has been violated by a woman they had hired to be their surrogate.

Their story starts as the couple wanted to have a child of their own after rekindling a relationship that has started in high school.

“We had decided unfortunately not to use an agency at that time,” said Chantele, “Our clinic had gave us several websites that we could utilize for people advertising to be surrogates and that’s what we did, and she ended up contacting us,” said Chantele, referring to the surrogate.

The Montover’s and the surrogate entered a written Gestational Carrier Agreement, or Surrogacy Agreement. Paul and Chantele agreed to pay the surrogate $13,000 to carry their baby – money for the surrogate to have her own round of IVF down the road.

“We agreed because we thought well that would be nice to help somebody else out as well,” said Chantele.

The surrogate became pregnant around Easter Sunday, 2016.

Beginning around May, 2016 the Montover’s relationship with their surrogate broke down.

“She said she didn’t trust us anymore, she changed her phone number, we couldn’t get a hold of her on social media,” said Paul about the surrogate.

Eventually, the Montover’s became so concerned they say they contacted the police for help and even considered legal options. At the end of October, they found out the surrogate had given birth at the end of August to twins, born premature at 24-weeks, weighing less than 2 pounds.

“She went through surgeries, blood transfusions,” explained Chantele looking at the baby, whose twin passed away eight days after birth, all unknown to Paul and Chantele.

A judge granted Paul and Chantele temporary custody in December and then in February, a Linn County District Court Judge gave the final judgement in favor of the Montover’s. Unfortunately, their surrogate is now appealing the ruling to the Iowa Supreme Court, maintaining the legal argument she is the legal mother because she gave birth and that the surrogacy agreement is unenforceable.

Such a sad story. Read more about their Surrogacy here.