Surrogacy Compensation and Why It is Important to Women, Families & the Children

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Surrogacy Compensation and Why It is Important to Women, Families & the Children

Compensating a woman for carrying your baby is seen by some as both exploitative and harmful to all the parties involved in the process. In fact, many countries ban it outright, even if the Surrogate consents. Other countries allow it, but ban payments to her of any kind.
Only a few places provide Intended Parents with legal standing before the birth of their child, including several states in the US, even if the child is genetically theirs. In fact, in many places the surrogate can change her mind and keep the baby. Several developing countries popular with foreigners in need of a surrogate have started to turn them away, such as India and Thailand.

We found a great article in the Economist that delved into the issues surrounding surrogacy. According to the Economist,

By pushing surrogacy to the legal fringes, they make it both more dangerous and costlier, and create legal uncertainty for all, especially the newborn baby who may be deemed parentless and taken into care. Instead, giving the gift of parenthood to those who cannot have it should be celebrated—and regulated sensibly.

Getting surrogacy right matters more than ever, since demand is rising. That is partly because fewer children are available for adoption, and partly because ideas about what constitutes a family have become more liberal. Surrogates used to be sought out only by heterosexual couples, and only when the woman had a medical problem that meant she could not carry a baby. But the spread of gay marriage has been followed by a rise in male couples turning to surrogates to complete their newly recognized families. And just as more women are becoming single parents with the help of sperm donation, more men are seeking to do so through surrogates.

And, as the article states, laws should let the surrogate be paid. Women who become surrogates generally take great satisfaction in helping someone become a parent. As we know, many jobs offer “rewards beyond money, and no one suggests they should therefore be done for nothing.” Certainly,

Surrogacy and Compensation

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Top 5 Myths

Top 5 Myths about Surrogacy

Surrogacy and other forms of assisted reproduction, such as egg donation and sperm donation, have long been surrounded by myths that are completely false. However, these myths, although untrue, continue to be passed around Internet forums and online “resources” causing confusion for Intended Parents, Surrogates, Egg Donors, and Sperm Donors. The following list is here to help you navigate any confusion that you may have – feel free to add your own.

1. Any woman can become a Gestational Surrogate.

False: Not every woman is physically and/or mentally ready to become a surrogate. Lifestyle, family dynamics, financial issues, or health issues are just a few things that can cause a woman to be disqualified (as a surrogate) at some point in her life. As many know, Conceptual Options has one of the most rigorous screening protocols in the United States and internationally; and we pride ourselves in making certain that we screen for the best possible outcomes for the Intended Parents, Surrogates, and the children.

2. The Surrogate Mother has a legal right to keep the baby.

False: Despite recent news reports, gestational surrogates do not have a legal right to keep the baby so long as the state laws where the child is being born are followed. Conceptual Options and your attorney will work with you to ensure that everyone is following state laws where the surrogate resides and where the baby is being born.

3. The Child will inherit some of the Surrogate’ DNA.

False: A medical study from Stanford University has made it clear that a woman who carries someone else’s baby contributes no DNA to the child, thereby causing no effect on the child’s DNA makeup or on the child’s physical/mental characteristics. Why? This is because the child already has its DNA from its biological mother and father (or egg donor and/or sperm donor). And, to be sure the baby’s own blood passes through its own body – not the blood of its surrogate mom. Remember – a child’s DNA comes from two places. Half comes from its mother (or egg donor) and half from its father (or sperm donor). More information on this study can be found here.

4. My Surrogate is only doing this for the money.

False: First, ask any Surrogate is if this is her only reason for becoming a Surrogate, and she will likely give you a piece of her mind. Most, if not all, Surrogates truly want to make a difference in the world, even though money is involved. There is a sincere desire in most women to help those who cannot conceive and give them an opportunity to enjoy motherhood – period. If a Surrogate is only doing it for the money, it is likely that she will not pass the psychological screening in most cases.

5. C-sections and Surrogacy do not mix.

False: One in three births in the United States are performed via Cesarean section, according to the CDC. In fact, women who want to become Surrogates should understand that the standard medical protocol for Surrogacy according to most IVF Physicians is that it is dependent upon the number of c-sections that a woman has had to determine if she qualifies. As for Intended Parents, speaking with your IVF Physician will assure you that a woman can be a Surrogate so long as she has not had three or more uncomplicated C-section during her lifetime.

Let us know what you think and add any more that you can think of in the comments section!