Can I Become a Surrogate with Conceptual Options?

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Can I Become a Surrogate with Conceptual Options?

Becoming a Surrogate can be one of the most fulfilling journeys you will likely do in your life. It won’t always be easy, and there will certainly be challenges you’ll need to face during your surrogacy pregnancy. However, the gift you’ll be giving another family is one they will be endlessly grateful for.

It’s important to remember that not all women are cut out to be surrogates. It takes a special skill set and even physical facility. If you have the desire to be a surrogate, there are a few things to take into consideration when applying, including your own health before you begin.

Though your heart may be in the right place, here is a checklist of things to consider while you start your path to becoming a true angel for another family.

1. Age of a Surrogate

Age matters when it comes to becoming a surrogate. The ideal Surrogates are between the ages of 21-39 years old. Not that we don’t appreciate women who want to be surrogates in their older years, it just becomes more difficult on the body and can sometimes create higher risk pregnancies.

In a process that is already fragile, it is key to offer the intended parents the best set up possible for their dream of having a child through IVF. Surrogate mothers who are in their prime years have a greater chance of carrying a child to full term and in the most healthy of manners. And, it is important to note that Surrogates in this age range still have the energy and physical capabilities to carry a child with ease.

2. No Prior Pregnancy Complications

When it comes to carrying a child for someone else, it’s important to have carried one of your own already. It’s equally as important that you previous pregnancies were uncomplicated.

If you experienced any substantial challenges during your pregnancy, then the chance of you experiencing those again during a surrogate pregnancy is fairly high. When it comes to becoming a Surrogate, consider your overall health when it comes pregnancies.

Your pregnancy as a Surrogate might have a few challenges, but in general, pregnancy should be something that isn’t extremely difficult for you.

3. Commitment

Sure, you aren’t entering into the family of the Intended Parents, but you are helping them build theirs. Most intended parents will be forever grateful for you and hold you in very high esteem. However, every Intended Parent’s set of specifics and desires is different.

On your end, is important to stay committed to your Intended Parents. As they’ve chosen you to carry their most precious of cargo, carefully consider your willingness to eat, drink, or live in a way that they desire during the nine months.

Staying committed to your intended parents can make all the difference in both of your journeys. From updates to making sure you make all of your doctor visits — commitment is key.

4. Body Mass Index

For a healthy pregnancy, meeting the guidelines for your specific height and weight in regards to your body mass index is important.

Overweight Surrogates have a much higher chance of having complications during their journeys. It’s important to maintain a healthy BMI before, during, and after your pregnancy. This can ensure a safe and positive Surrogate experience for both you and the unborn child.

Journey On

Becoming a Surrogate will bless the lives of everyone involved. While challenges may arise, this checklist can help you start on the right foot. The gift you are offering a family in need is one of the most generous nature.

When you’re ready to start your journey, choose the best program to care for you and contact us today.

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Surrogacy Story

Parents Speak Out About Surrogacy Case Headed to Iowa Supreme Court – “We Should Have Used a Surrogacy Agency”

“Just let other intended parents know to be very careful, my suggestion would be to use an agency – it’s very hard now to trust people. We have a trust issue now because of this,” said Chantele.

Knowing what they know now, Paul and Chantele feel that their trust has been violated by a woman they had hired to be their surrogate.

Their story starts as the couple wanted to have a child of their own after rekindling a relationship that has started in high school.

“We had decided unfortunately not to use an agency at that time,” said Chantele, “Our clinic had gave us several websites that we could utilize for people advertising to be surrogates and that’s what we did, and she ended up contacting us,” said Chantele, referring to the surrogate.

The Montover’s and the surrogate entered a written Gestational Carrier Agreement, or Surrogacy Agreement. Paul and Chantele agreed to pay the surrogate $13,000 to carry their baby – money for the surrogate to have her own round of IVF down the road.

“We agreed because we thought well that would be nice to help somebody else out as well,” said Chantele.

The surrogate became pregnant around Easter Sunday, 2016.

Beginning around May, 2016 the Montover’s relationship with their surrogate broke down.

“She said she didn’t trust us anymore, she changed her phone number, we couldn’t get a hold of her on social media,” said Paul about the surrogate.

Eventually, the Montover’s became so concerned they say they contacted the police for help and even considered legal options. At the end of October, they found out the surrogate had given birth at the end of August to twins, born premature at 24-weeks, weighing less than 2 pounds.

“She went through surgeries, blood transfusions,” explained Chantele looking at the baby, whose twin passed away eight days after birth, all unknown to Paul and Chantele.

A judge granted Paul and Chantele temporary custody in December and then in February, a Linn County District Court Judge gave the final judgement in favor of the Montover’s. Unfortunately, their surrogate is now appealing the ruling to the Iowa Supreme Court, maintaining the legal argument she is the legal mother because she gave birth and that the surrogacy agreement is unenforceable.

Such a sad story. Read more about their Surrogacy here.