What is Social Surrogacy?

When it comes to building a family, pregnancy and childbirth are two of the most special and rewarding experiences that life has to offer. But the truth is, pregnancy tends to be completely unpredictable with the possibility of unforeseen complications. At times, these complications can force pregnant mothers to have to lay in bed for months at a time due to medical issues. These factors and risks often leave high-profile professional women who depend on their physical appearance for income feeling conflicted about starting a family.

What is Social Surrogacy?

When it comes to building a family, pregnancy and childbirth are two of the most special and rewarding experiences that life has to offer. But the truth is, pregnancy tends to be completely unpredictable with the possibility of unforeseen complications. At times, these complications can force pregnant mothers to have to lay in bed for months at a time due to medical issues. These factors and risks often leave high-profile professional women who depend on their physical appearance for income feeling conflicted about starting a family.

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Women, Career and Surrogacy

Many jobs place women of power straight in the public eye, in cases where pregnancy could make or break the result or success of their career. Let’s take women in politics. For example, these women may not be able to safely endure a pregnancy during a stressful election, nor do they wish to carry a pregnancy into their busy, high-profile political campaign. Although many of these women truly want to bear children and start building a family, there are too many issues at stake to choose both. After all, a loss of business revenue and/or loss of a career could quickly result in financial insecurity and ultimately an inability to support a new family. Some of these women have worked too hard for too long to sacrifice their positions in the career world. They cannot afford to be pregnant. Literally.

The possibility of a life-altering medical issue or body disfigurement during pregnancy can provoke many worries among these women. What if they lose their jobs due to a difficult pregnancy? What if they lose business or status in their successful companies due to an unforeseen medical issue with their pregnancy? Some pregnant women experience debilitating morning sickness, which causes them to become unable to function with normal daily life tasks quickly. Other pregnancy complications include gestational diabetes and high blood pressure, both conditions that severely alter the path of a “normal” healthy pregnancy. Social surrogacy is a solution for so many women who are faced with a decision to choose between building a family and possibly risking the livelihood that would allow them to support the family they so desperately want in the first place.

What’s best for the child?

Another important consideration is the stress of a high-profile career and how it may negatively affect the baby. Stress during pregnancy is harmful to the fetus since it can manifest itself as a loss of appetite, sleep disturbance, shallow breathing patterns, and weakening of the immune system. A loss of appetite can result in a decreased intake of daily nutrients necessary for healthy growth. Sleep disturbances prevent the body from restoring itself and reducing anxiety, a much-needed part of growing a fetus. Anxiety can cause a reduction in the depth of breathing patterns, possibly resulting in less oxygen to the fetus. Overall, stress weakens the immune system since the body diverts much of its energy and internal resources to battle the fatiguing effects, both intense and chronic. This, unfortunately, leaves the body with little energy left to fight off invading germs, making one more susceptible to catching the flu, a bad cold, or anything else in the air. Not an ideal situation for a healthy, thriving pregnancy with little to no complications. 

Physical Demands

There are also women with physically demanding jobs who worry about the possible effects of losing their lives while risking the health of their unborn children. This includes professional athletes and women who hold active physical positions within the higher rankings of the military. These women face an emotional strain when considering pregnancy since this now forces them to choose between their livelihood or building the family they so desperately want. If they choose to build a family on their own, they are faced with a constant concern of hurting the baby by exceeding their physical limit and possibly forcing themselves into dangerous premature labor. Since more and more women are in these types of physically demanding jobs, social surrogacy now becomes somewhat of a relief for those who do not want to choose between the job that pays for them to live, the safety of their unborn child, and the possibility of building a family. Social surrogacy offers a solution to cover all of these concerns by creating a solution where they can both wait to have a family and lean into their work. 

Age

Another group of women seeking social surrogacy is women over 35, considering pregnancy over 35 now places them in a “high risk” category. This age range is also more prone to having multiple fetuses, often resulting in twin pregnancies that carry a higher bed rest and possible complications. These days, women have babies later in life, often focusing on their careers first while traveling and living their lives before settling down to build a family. They shouldn’t have to choose between building a secure foundation for themselves, to be better parents later, and actually being able to have that family after they succeed in that journey. 

Other women considering social surrogacy have no desire to carry a child and experience pregnancy but still dream of having a family of their own. There’s also the consideration of women concerned about a pregnancy due to a specific medical need in the form of emotional and mental health. Women with severe anxiety or post-traumatic stress disorder take huge risks with pregnancy considering the medications they rely on to keep them at a functioning level in life are often dangerous and must be discontinued for the fetus’s safety. These women are at a higher risk for postpartum depression when they need to be mentally healthy to care for a newborn baby. The risk of having to go off their medication during pregnancy is too great since the emotional health consequences are too severe. 

Some women request social surrogacy after a traumatic pregnancy and/or birth experience. Many women carry their first pregnancy to term, only to give birth to a stillborn baby. Others have seemingly normal pregnancies only to lose their babies suddenly without warning, later in their pregnancies. The grief and anguish of these situations are just too much for any woman to bear, understandably so. Even with the best prognosis, the stress of worrying about a second pregnancy after such a traumatic experience puts these women in a high-risk category. It forces them to have very anxiety-ridden pregnancies. These women are emotionally done and physically burned out yet still carry the love necessary to begin again, with help, and build a family.

Building a Family with Social Surrogacy

Social surrogacy offers these busy, career-minded women a chance to still have biological children of their own without interrupting or risking their lives and successful careers with a possible life-halting pregnancy. This process still enables these women to be a large part of the pregnancy because they can go with the surrogate mother to all doctor visits to experience seeing the baby on ultrasounds and hearing the baby’s heartbeat. They can still feel the baby kick and watch the baby grow, all from an outside perspective. Here at Conceptual Options, we have many clients who choose to come to our agency for “social surrogacy,” even though they have no actual physical need to hire a surrogate to help them build a family. 

Our main goal at Conceptual Options is to help all couples and individuals equally, regardless of personal motivation for surrogacy, build healthy and happy families. Unfortunately, “social surrogacy” is not allowed in some countries. Fortunately, many people can travel here because California has some of the most favorable surrogacy laws in the world. You will not find such restrictions or limitations on surrogacy here in California

Here at Conceptual Options, we help match intended parents and individuals to their chosen surrogate mother through a careful screening process. In the rare case, if a surrogate mother is not willing to carry a pregnancy for social surrogacy, we immediately move forward with a better match from our list of qualified surrogate mothers. We understand this choice is not for everyone, so we respect both parties and their decisions. We also find that women who participate in social surrogacy often feel like heroes or angels for doing it since they are helping someone who couldn’t have a baby otherwise, for whatever reason. The surrogates feel as if they’re giving couples the gift of life, making them feel powerful and important. 

If you’re looking to find a surrogate and have a child through assisted reproduction, our agency has surrogacy options for your family. We make choosing surrogacy less of a headache and more of an enjoyable experience. Feel free to contact us for more information on the surrogacy process and how our surrogacy agency can help you.