Parents Speak Out About Surrogacy Case Headed to Iowa Supreme Court – “We Should Have Used a Surrogacy Agency”

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Parents Speak Out About Surrogacy Case Headed to Iowa Supreme Court – “We Should Have Used a Surrogacy Agency”

“Just let other intended parents know to be very careful, my suggestion would be to use an agency – it’s very hard now to trust people. We have a trust issue now because of this,” said Chantele.

Knowing what they know now, Paul and Chantele feel that their trust has been violated by a woman they had hired to be their surrogate.

Their story starts as the couple wanted to have a child of their own after rekindling a relationship that has started in high school.

“We had decided unfortunately not to use an agency at that time,” said Chantele, “Our clinic had gave us several websites that we could utilize for people advertising to be surrogates and that’s what we did, and she ended up contacting us,” said Chantele, referring to the surrogate.

The Montover’s and the surrogate entered a written Gestational Carrier Agreement, or Surrogacy Agreement. Paul and Chantele agreed to pay the surrogate $13,000 to carry their baby – money for the surrogate to have her own round of IVF down the road.

“We agreed because we thought well that would be nice to help somebody else out as well,” said Chantele.

The surrogate became pregnant around Easter Sunday, 2016.

Beginning around May, 2016 the Montover’s relationship with their surrogate broke down.

“She said she didn’t trust us anymore, she changed her phone number, we couldn’t get a hold of her on social media,” said Paul about the surrogate.

Eventually, the Montover’s became so concerned they say they contacted the police for help and even considered legal options. At the end of October, they found out the surrogate had given birth at the end of August to twins, born premature at 24-weeks, weighing less than 2 pounds.

“She went through surgeries, blood transfusions,” explained Chantele looking at the baby, whose twin passed away eight days after birth, all unknown to Paul and Chantele.

A judge granted Paul and Chantele temporary custody in December and then in February, a Linn County District Court Judge gave the final judgement in favor of the Montover’s. Unfortunately, their surrogate is now appealing the ruling to the Iowa Supreme Court, maintaining the legal argument she is the legal mother because she gave birth and that the surrogacy agreement is unenforceable.

Such a sad story. Read more about their Surrogacy here.


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Conceptual Options 2017 Summer Surrogate Appreciation Party

Conceptual Options’ Amazing Surrogates were treated to a Summer Appreciation Party this past month. We treated everyone to painting, great raffles, great conversation and, of course, delicious Buca Di Beppo for our summer luncheon and appreciation party!! We would love for women considering surrogacy to contact us for more information on how you can join our Surrogate Community and join our Conceptual Options’ Family today!!

Learn about joining our Surrogate Community today and meet our Conceptual Options‘ Surrogacy Support Team! Also, learn more about our monthly Surrogate Support Group meetings, twice yearly Appreciation parties, and more!


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Surrogacy Compensation and Why It is Important to Women, Families & the Children

Compensating a woman for carrying your baby is seen by some as both exploitative and harmful to all the parties involved in the process. In fact, many countries ban it outright, even if the Surrogate consents. Other countries allow it, but ban payments to her of any kind.
Only a few places provide Intended Parents with legal standing before the birth of their child, including several states in the US, even if the child is genetically theirs. In fact, in many places the surrogate can change her mind and keep the baby. Several developing countries popular with foreigners in need of a surrogate have started to turn them away, such as India and Thailand.

We found a great article in the Economist that delved into the issues surrounding surrogacy. According to the Economist,

By pushing surrogacy to the legal fringes, they make it both more dangerous and costlier, and create legal uncertainty for all, especially the newborn baby who may be deemed parentless and taken into care. Instead, giving the gift of parenthood to those who cannot have it should be celebrated—and regulated sensibly.

Getting surrogacy right matters more than ever, since demand is rising. That is partly because fewer children are available for adoption, and partly because ideas about what constitutes a family have become more liberal. Surrogates used to be sought out only by heterosexual couples, and only when the woman had a medical problem that meant she could not carry a baby. But the spread of gay marriage has been followed by a rise in male couples turning to surrogates to complete their newly recognized families. And just as more women are becoming single parents with the help of sperm donation, more men are seeking to do so through surrogates.

And, as the article states, laws should let the surrogate be paid. Women who become surrogates generally take great satisfaction in helping someone become a parent. As we know, many jobs offer “rewards beyond money, and no one suggests they should therefore be done for nothing.” Certainly,

Surrogacy and Compensation

. Well said – what do you think?

Read more here about Surrogacy and Compensation.